Happiness is an Inside Job !!

The Sun rises everyday..true! So..Is it a sunny day every day? 

We know that, a day to be sunny needs a clear sky..free of heavy clouds.. one with a favorable season. Also we all know that, the true nature of a sky is deep and bright!!.. rest clouds ..either shiny-white or dark-heavy... ..they are just temp.

    Same is the kind- Human nature. Everyone of us is a bright being. Our inner instinct is serenity and love, and they ultimately provides inner happiness, a peace at soul. But sometimes our mood sways with emerging positive and negative emotions within us. Shiny white feelings come with the emotions like love, calmness, enthusiasm, hope, confidence, assurance, gratitude..  and those dark heavy feelings come with depression, unhappiness, resentment, annoyance, fear, insecurities, tiredness or simply stress... Sometimes these dark emotions drag us down, sap our energies and leave us astray..              

    Certainly, all of us experience a feeling gripped by dark emotions at times.. In time of disappointments, we stuck feeling sad and hurt.. In frustrating situations , we stuck feeling annoyed and angry..  If Upset, we stuck feeling afraid and worried.. and when time has been embarrassing, we stuck feeling ashamed and Sorry!! When drowned with such feelings, it certainly is not possible to communicate as effectively as we wish to. and it's obvio! nothings seems happening!! 

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No one is to blame!

It was my parents' fault, my teachers' fault, my neighbor's, my boss' fault;

it was my enemy's fault,my government's fault, a leader's fault, a religion's fault, a corporation's fault.Why does God do this to me? He must hate me. Satan surely possessed me; he must control me.

When I was obese, I blamed those in charge of my food preparation or those providing nutrition education.When I was considered learning disabled, I blamed others for my unfair labels, unethical misdiagnosis and wrongful institutionalizing. When I was homeless, I blamed the government, society, civilization. 

When you see others lie, cheat, steal, deceive and conspire, do you blame them for their ignorant hurtful drama? Even if some injustice calls you to action, blaming them will not alter your situation. No one is to blame, yet only one person is in control of re-charting your life.The herd runs off the cliff blaming others for their stampede, and the crazy ones are those who accept personally responsibility, turn around against the shoving mob and walk away from the immoral demise.

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Problems on Discovery !

I wish for happy hours as everyone else.

Though I wish for it almost all the time, problems keeps popping out every now and then and it is not unusual at all.

I am way too emotional and equally an immature being. J. How silly I am to expect for life without problems while life is nothing if not a continuous overcoming of problems. I simply misunderstand the situations and sometimes even the people too. May be my understanding levels are not of enough height and hence these are ways to improve myself.

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Just Through my Lens...

Right now,

I see it as a “bad break” life has given me..

I feel by now, I made those days unnecessarily difficult...

i just pressurized myself ,as my efforts through the year has lost their values today.. 

Though there was nothing to lose.. I felt I lost it!! 

But it is all me.. a mind-story of an emotional being,

feels like it is a defeat.. But deep inside I know it is not!!!

Above all, this is me who is again making a conclusion so early..

as if I know how my life should have been  and what will be best for me..( punch to self )

Slowly but realizing that I am a learner in every way!  

And from something that happened recently ..i’d learned a lot.  

Its all about my life and the satisfaction I want from whatever I do,
….no matter where!! 

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May be an Expert Planner....

Days ahead are completely uncertain. I may assert how my tomorrow will be..or atleast guess what may happen the next day but despite of all approximation.. what is going to happen ahead, I am less confident about it simply because anything can happen in the next moment. I don’t mean to say day tomorrow will be drastically different but being too confident is way too hard.

~Smiling~ I plan, I decide to do this and that, as if it is going to happen perfectly as I’ve wished for. Expressing my feelings, I am not trying to encourage anyone to stay a frivolous life Or discourage anyone to make their plans ahead. However I feel like deep inside everyone of us know that making a plan and moving ahead is just a way to live a life.. All that has to happen, it will definitely happen..that’s all.

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Incomparable'...Unconditional Love

She is the most beautiful person in the world to me: She, who has been nurturing the child in me as well as influencing the women in me. She is Mother less more a friend to me. A friend who’s always guided me in the right direction, who’s wondered along when I lost track, who’s always been welcoming no-matter how many times I’ve left, who’s always been there when I needed her-even when I thought I didn’t…She who’s never enforced her rules on me, instead has allowed me to learn from my mistakes.
She,whom I’ve less expressed my affection towards as much as I’ve poured my discomforts and dislikes, don’t know why sometimes nearness makes it harder to express things we want to. Words find no voice and despite the willingness we fail; I wonder why that happens.Why end up sounding critical, when in fact wanted to show gratitude? Why so hard to utter those simple words that convey acceptance? Why withhold the positive emotion when there’s plenty amore? Why do we often miss to see what we have and nag over things that we don’t?

Luckily! When it comes to Mothering, “There’s less expectation and more an acceptance”.

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Good Intentions are not enough

She thinks he doesn't love her..

He thinks she doesn't love him..

However both just thinks and the fact is both are Wrong!!

Falling in love is always magical. It feels eternal, as if love will last forever. We naively believe that somehow we are exempt from the problems our parents had, free from the odds that love will die, assured that it is meant to be and that we are destined to live happily ever after.

But as the magic recedes with the daily life, it emerges that men continue to expect women to think and react like him, and women expect men to feel and behave like her. Actually Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Without a clear awareness of our differences, we do not take the time to respect and understand each other. We become demanding, judgmental and resentful.

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Know you are changing!!

Aware and I observe ..a sec passes, a minute, an hour, a day and in same nature a week, a month, a year and years!! Point is.. Time- it keeps moving. Never waits for nothing. It never judges anyone of us . It knows no partiality as it brings equal shares of sunshine and rain to all of us. Sometimes showers us with blessings and in times hailstones of sorrows!!! and no matter what it never loses its Punctuality.. (ironic)

    Moving on in its own pace, it makes us move too.. then simply it brings Change!!
I felt this truth,.. Only the Change Is Constant !!..basis of everything.  Change is valid truth in every aspects of our life..Accept it or not!! and this can be either progressive or regressive.. all depends on You. Sometimes, we get too busy in moving ahead with our plans so may not notice .. but we continue to shine differently within our shades. We realize only when this shades appears to be contrast, or when we feel something unusual.
      Living a life where we are bound in relations. Beside kinship, other relation starts with being a stranger,acquaintance, friend, close friend, intimate friend, and still if it works well it is the best thing that happens in life otherwise back to the stranger again..we never know..
      Within family, we are pampered in our childhood, suggested in teenage, given a chance to decide on our own when we are young, tagged with responsibilities when we get matured, and expected the same care and love back again...Almost.. for all of us change is progressive..we are nurtured with our sanskar, progress academically and grow professionally and we lead our changing life..
      IF change is so happening.. I wonder why we expect for moments of comfort to remain as it is forever and panic in times of discomfort as if it will never fade away!! We are already this older living our both cheers and tears..Just relax,, chill ;) ..the best thing i can share right now is ..Live your every emotions.. rejoice happy moments,, encircle as much people as you can to share your happiness and cry out loud when u feel sad,, spent some lone hours with self, love yourself and let self grow in true life meanings... or share your discomforts with trusted ones!!
      IF change is so happening, why we expect a healthy relation to remain in the same way? (sounds -ve, but think about it). It is good to know that when daily life takes over, situations may undergo trails of ups and downs. We may become demanding, judgmental, intolerant and resentful with circumstances. And we find nobody to blame. Hence understanding the change and letting go grudges can be the better idea, what say? Also holding grudges is harmful to self anyway, because a contaminated heart can hardly feel a good feelings!! right!
      Living Life is so easy when we accept the change, take things lightly and move on!! 
God Bless..

Inspired by my lone hours...

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Overboard things that are weighting you down!!!

You are right where you should be at this moment. Now it is time to move on to what is next.


Whether your life up to this point has been easy or whether it has been difficult , you are here just the same. And your destiny does not care about your past.


There are plenty of reasons why you find yourself here at this time. What matter much more, though are the reasons you now have for moving forward.


As good as they have been, your triumphs of the past are now little more than pleasant memories.
As painful as they once were, your past failures are now behind you.


Do you realize how completely free you are at this very moment? Do you understand that the main thing holding you back is your belief that something is holding you back.


Today is your opportunity to fully taste the freedom and finally get beyond  the limits you're imposed on yourself. Reach inside, touch your most compelling purpose, and bring possibilities to life!!!


                                                                                                      - Ralph Marston

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way to self inspiration...

The moment when you just don’t have desire for anything. You sleep with no excitement for tomorrow, with no plans for tomorrow. You feel indifferent..something like all the subjects are just out for your interest. You wake-up in the morning.. ..may feel fresh for a while but after sometime you have nothing new to do in your life beside what you have in your daily schedule.

As you lack activities of your enthusiasm , u remain unmotivated. You will not find anything inspring that enhance your grace. The dullness in your activities will numb your mind and curtain your eyes. You do not see newness in anything. For you even the beautiful sunrise is just the one another daily act of the Sun. No amusements …no sympathys!!

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A Sheer Feeling….

Have you ever noticed friendliness, arising out from you, unaddressed and without any need and greed? No, I m not talking about friendship. Actually, friendship is just a state of mind,..It is subjective. About friendliness, it’s a quality, it’s your nature that have totally different meaning. Friendliness is your love shared unconditionally with all around you. It is a joy of sharing without any condition, without expectations, with no desire that something should be returned, not even gratefulness. It’s a purest form of love.

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LOVE...it just happens...

Love just happens 

If we fall in love just because someone makes us laugh,
what happens when we find them no longer funny?
If we fall in love just because someone is beautiful,
what happens when the beauty fades?
If we fall in love just because someone can provide for us,
what happens when they lose their wealth?
because love defies all the reasons,
when you truly love someone
you just can't find a reason, u just do!!
...I read these words in facebook! and i felt 'oh yes,.. that's why we call love just happens.

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it's starting and it's ending.....it's changing!!!

Although unknowingly but yes certainly every single thing around is changing and we are the one who is getting affected in a very mild way. Change is the biggest truth here exist. The only thing that is constant is CHANGE. Slow, hence unnoticed but it is happening!! Every tiny matter around is changing, even something inside me. And for a moment I've stopped for a little while...oh god ...see what I've experienced. I was greatly affected by those reasons around me. Everything was in huge rush. Moving in such a speed that i felt the rush of blowing air passing by. I tried to stand firm but it was really tough. I felt this change, only when i stopped.

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when there comes 'why', nothing else remains..

......feeling by myself, i m wondering about this 'WHY. Sometimes  feels like 'WHY is a villain..because when it arrives, with it arises 'the flooded thoughts...then finally nothing else remains. I try my best not to let this 'WHY interfere me, but when i am onto my daily stuffs oodles of why arises. it appears on every single matter i move through.

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