Good Intentions are not enough

She thinks he doesn't love her..

He thinks she doesn't love him..

However both just thinks and the fact is both are Wrong!!

Falling in love is always magical. It feels eternal, as if love will last forever. We naively believe that somehow we are exempt from the problems our parents had, free from the odds that love will die, assured that it is meant to be and that we are destined to live happily ever after.

But as the magic recedes with the daily life, it emerges that men continue to expect women to think and react like him, and women expect men to feel and behave like her. Actually Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Without a clear awareness of our differences, we do not take the time to respect and understand each other. We become demanding, judgmental and resentful.

Even with the good intention, love continues to die. Somehow the problems creep in. The resentments build up. Communication breaks down. Mistrust increases. Rejection and the repression result. The magic of love is lost.

Then we keep wondering how and why does it happen? It happens to almost everyone..

Each day thousands of individuals are searching somehow for a partner to get that genuine love feeling. Each year, millions of couple bind together in love and then painfully separate because they have stop to feel the love they used  to. From those who are able to sustain love enough to get married, only 50% stay married. Out of those who stay together, possibly another 50% are not fulfilled. They stay together out of loyalty and obligation or from the fear of starting over again.

Very few people, indeed, are able to grow in love. Yet it does happen. When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has chance to blossom. We can see, Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed by others however ..Women  are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished by others. Not to be needed is something like slow death for a man... Not to be worthy of love is something like slow death for a women... A man under stress need some lone hours, he prefer to stay all alone to find the solution and solve the problems in best possible way sooner.. However  a woman under stress in not immediately concerned with finding solutions but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood and supported.

By understanding the existing differences it is possible to learn how to best support the people we care about.

                             Extract: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray